About a year ago, I wrote a post about true love. What is true love? How do you find it? How do you know when you have found it? All burning questions that, I believe, each one of us longs to answer. At the time of my original post I had only the experiences and expressions of love from my family to draw on. Now, I have my own personal experience. I have found my true love and somehow, after finding him, my whole life seems to make more sense. Life has not become easier. Quite the opposite. Instead of just figuring out my life, I now have to figure out my life, his life, and our life. All at the same time. But all that is OK because he is right alongside me, helping to figure it all out. Life has also become much more fun. Finally I have a "partner in crime," if you will; someone to share in all my adventures.
So, we come to the questions posed with a fresh, new perspective: What is true love? How do you find it? How do you know when you have found it?
The first inquiry: What is true love? For me, true love is smiling at the mere thought of him. My heart tugging splendidly in my chest when someone mentions his name. The knowledge that, somehow, my love for him has grown deeper and sweeter over the short time we have been together and knowing our love will continue to grow throughout our many years together. There are so many things that constitute my feelings of love for him it would be impossible to list them all here. And, really, would you want to read ALL that mushy, gooey stuff anyway? True love is a feeling deep down in your heart that tells you the only place you want to be is with him, wherever he may be, longing for his safety, hoping he returns safely home to you. True love is knowing no matter what happens, good, bad, or ugly, you will be there for each other, to lift and support one another. True love is wanting your Love to blossom and grow in new and old hobbies and experience new and interesting things. True love is allowing the other to continue to be a special and unique individual and to keep falling in love over and over again with them.
The second: How do you find it? Allow me to answer how I found my true love, and perhaps we may glean from there an answer to our question. I found my true love by accident, really. A fluke, if you will. We have known each other for years. We had mutual friends, went to the same parties, even chatted a couple of times, but never really became friends until the summer before we were married. Luckily, at the beach with some friends, we had the opportunity to actually get to know each other. This gave us the motivation to stay a bit more closely connected. Months later, at a weekly event neither of us attended, EVER (see? Fluke.), he asked my on our first date. The rest, you might say, is history. But how did I know it was true love? I knew because I started to feel all those mushy, gooey things I mentioned above. And, for the first time ever, he did too. Simply put, I took a chance. I easily could have said no when he asked me on a date. But I didn't. Sometimes we have to find out what doesn't work before we find out what does work. That was certainly the way it happened for me. And you know what? I couldn't be happier!
Finally: How do you know when you have found true love? This is actually a difficult question. I heard the phrase "You'll know it when you feel it" more times than I can count. Each time I heard it I kind of got it, but I never really got it. It seems like a cop-out, like an easy way out of a hard question, but I feel it is true. Somehow, someway, you just know.
One of the most important things I learned is you have to keep yourself up in all aspects: physically, spiritually, mentally, emotionally. Allow yourself the opportunity to explore budding interests and new activities. You may find true love from it, you may not. But each new experience you have makes you a more interesting person. You have to become the kind of person you want to be with. If you want to be with someone who is cultured, you must become cultured yourself. Go to art galleries, ballets, and other theatrical performances. If you want someone who is interested in sports, become interested in sports. Learn how to play one, learn the rules for your favorite sport, find a favorites team, go to sporting events. Your life will be enriched as you embark on these new journeys. And who knows? Maybe you will find a special someone to share in your adventures. What have you got to lose?
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